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What not to ask an IAF wife

A little note... this is not my original. But an adaptation of something an American Military wife wrote. I just fine tuned it and added some of my own experiences :) 1. "Aren't you afraid that he'll be killed?" This one comes in at number one on the "duh" list for every Armed Forces Wife ( AFW ). Of course we're afraid. We're terrified. The thought always lingers in the backs of our minds -- but thanks, brilliant, you just brought it back to the front. Maybe next you can go ask someone with cancer if they're scared of dying. 2. "I don't know how you manage. I don't think I could do it." This is intended to be a compliment, but it's just a little annoying. Here's why: It's not like all of us  AFWs  have been dreaming since childhood of the day we'd get to be anxious single moms who carry cellphones with us to the bathroom and in the shower. We're not made of some mysterious matter that makes

Thank You...

In these days of natural disasters and disconcert amongst people when one has to write a note of thanks or appreciation for anything it doesn't come easy. The past year has not been the smoothest... or the easiest as well. Good things have been few and far between. Still... I am thankful for the little things that has brought a smile to my lips. I am thankful for all the love and blessings of all those people who stood by me when I thought I couldn't take it anymore. I am thankful for the friends I have who silently walked with me and helped me through all crisis. I am thankful for the beautiful daughter that I have who has given me more reason to be proud of her than not. I am thankful for that friend who messages me diligently every 4 to 5 days and asks "Jinda?" Even if I am too busy to respond. I am thankful for the rabbits who always make me smile... When I wake up every morning and open my curtains and watch the morning sun swoop in to say hello... I am t

Dear Crazy Me

Dear Crazy Me, I know I keep talking to you. But I have seldom written to you. Life is hectic ain't it? I know in all the day to day mundane don't forget that there is a you that needs some tender loving care as well. In your attempt to keep a smiling face don't forget to find a quiet corner and breathe. Remember it is ok to say NO. It is not easy. But it's necessary. Not doing that will suck you of all your energy and we all know that's not a good place to be in. Always speak up. Not just for you. But for those who have not yet mastered the art. Speak the truth whatever the consequence maybe. Speaking the truth when its inconvenient is more important than just doing so for your own personal gain. Believe differently. Think out of the box. Show the world a path that is seldom taken. Walk on it... and take others on it as well. Have the courage to change your mind. You don't have to always do what you said you will. It's perfectly ok to change your mi

A note of apprecitation

This is a note of appreciation for my son, Darsh. The little man who has all of my heart!! He is all of 6 years old, yet sensitive and insightful. He loves to spin little stories and goes to great lengths to convince me that they are real.   Addicted to dinosaurs and dragons, his recent knowledge of one of them being extinct and the other being a fantasy has left him a little heart-broken.   The last couple of years have been a little tough on the youngster, since both my husband and I were busy and away from home most of the time. Our social commitments were many and there were often occasions where we could not take him along. Although he was never left alone and was always under supervised care, I always felt guilty of leaving him behind. He probably felt saddened but he always said good bye with a smile (I think he secretly enjoyed our absence as he wouldn’t have to worry about my constant scrutiny of everything he did). He waited up till we got back home and welcomed us

Ode to MyTeachers

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This teachers' day I can't but help remember my teachers. All those who have painstakingly hand held me all my life. Those that I loved and even those that I hated, then. But now I know how much they eventually contributed towards my love for perfection. Pic Courtesy: https://www.facebook.com/Unchainedreamz.co.in/ My english teacher from my Seventh Grade, Suvina Aunty... who I admired... she was the one who gave me my confidence to write. That I am conversant in English is all thanks to her. I will never forget the my last day in my school in Kolkata when I went to meet my teachers, and when my math teacher, Dolly Aunty, told my mom, just when she was shaping up well you are taking her away. My eyes welled up with tears of pride and accomplishment. Ever since, I took it upon myself to excel in Math... Coz my Math teacher thought I could. How I managed to learn Hindi in for the first time in my 9th Standard when I went to Chennai. Fatima miss... how she would sit w